There's a post about it almost daily. Telling us to love ourselves, to take pride in what we look like, who we are.
It sounds great on the surface. It's a lot harder than just "believing in yourself." You can fake confidence. But you can't fake the toll it can take on a person.
Even the strongest of people. The ones that you think it doesn't bother. It does. It always makes an impact. It makes you question yourself when you shouldn't. It makes you worry. Sometimes, it makes us cry, ruins our day, makes us fret about it for days.
And it happens to everyone. But it seems like in this day, people are so brave behind their keyboards that they feel they have the right to tell anyone what they think. It happened just last week to Luke Combs and his fiance, Nicole.
Nicole posted the tweet below and was hit with haters telling her she only loved Combs for his money because there was no way she could love a "bigger guy."
Nicole didn't wait long to retaliate.
The point is, she shouldn't have had to. But it happens all the time.
Recently, a weather anchor named Tracy Hinson, was fat-shamed for her choice of outfits because she "wasn't wearing a girdle and her belly was hanging out" of the bottom of her dresses.
To which, she responded "Dear Mary, yes I do watch my air checks. NO I will not be strapping myself into a girdle because you don’t like my belly. I like pasta, bread and cheese too much to obsess over my weight. I like my body and that’s all that really matters. #nomorefatshaming"
And here's the thing, she's tiny! I would love to have her figure. Sadly, even sometimes when people give you a compliment, it's not. I worry constantly about the pictures I post on social media because I'm not happy with my weight. After I had my son, I've struggled with getting the weight back off. And it's particularly hard because I had worked really hard for 2 plus years to lose 145 pounds. I took probably 10 pictures before I finally picked this one to post.
And for all the nice comments I got, I got one message telling me that I had chunky knees. Seriously...you're going to attack my knees?? Heaven to Betsy. This is why I took 10 pictures!
I posted this #TBT picture of me with Sam Hunt and got a message of "that's you?!?" I knew what they were getting at, so I said, joking, "yep! I had a baby, so..." and then inserted laughing emojis. They responded with "Wow, it just doesn't even look like you. I mean, you're still pretty, but just wow."
I don't know that person. They only listen to me on the radio. They don't know that I've struggled. That I'm working out every day, that I'm not eating the things that I want only to never have the scale move. That I'm struggling in an industry where you're supposed to be thin and beautiful and how I worry every day when I post on social if I'm going to get another "wow, that's you!?!" comment.
Why do we feel like it's okay to do this to each other? Because I can tell you, it's not. If you wouldn't want someone saying those things to your child, then don't say it to someone else! It's not okay. We have to stop fat-shaming people. You don't know their struggles, and if you are willing to say those things without knowing someone, you definitely don't know their heart.
One day, being super thin will go "out of style" and maybe we'll know that whatever size your jeans are, that you are worthy of someone's love and humility. You know what never goes out of style? Being kind.
Be kind to each other and think, would I say this to a child? If they answer is no, then don't say it to someone else. Look for their heart, not their jean size.